ACTS OF SELF CARE I LET INTO MY LIFE
Self care is important but sometimes we find ourselves saying “I just don’t have time” to practice it. I say this in inverted commas because I hear a lot of it and honestly, until the past couple of years I said those words too.
Everyone has a different definition of self care and ways they action it. For me, every day I care for myself with nourishing whole foods, meditation and make time even just 20 minutes to move my body in some way. Now these acts are habits, I feel as though I should keep discovering new ways to keep my self care fresh so the action is recognised as ‘me time’.
It’s easy for me to slip into “charge on ahead zone” and every now and then I realise I need to pull myself up on it. Otherwise, there’s crash and burn zone and that’s not much fun, or cool, or healthy at all.
A few things effect the ease of my self care / Jacq time out practice and no doubt they’ll resonate with some of you.
I’m a mum… and my role as a mum sometimes leaves with me with parent guilt. If for some reason (that looking after yourself thing) I take a step away and have me time whilst Jet is around, the guilt comes charging down on me. Over the years, I’ve figured out ways to create my above habits (food, move, meditate) whilst Jet is around so they’re not a problem. However for the likes of more than 20-30minutes time out from my little man, not only do I miss him but I feel guilty that I’m not sharing that time with him.
The thing is, Jet’s totally cool with it and really none of us need to carry any guilt, especially when we’re doing something to make ourselves feel better and inevitably, as a result, parent better. It’s more about being creative in the way you use this time out or looking at where you can make space and negotiate other parts in your life. Talk to your partner or if you’re solo talk to your children if they’re old enough. If they’re not, then where or who else can you reach out to for some support so you CAN look after yourself. You don’t know until you ask right?
I run a business… and work full time, or even part time and managing a family, the days load up. And quickly. This is where you need to look at your week and where you can create some white space. Does your weekend need to be spent with a 2 hour round trip to the shops on a Saturday with everyone else or could you instead use an hour of that to do something that makes you feel good and instead set up an online order / delivery? Can you prep your food in advance on a Sunday so you alleviate the 30-45 minutes everyday doing lunches and dinners otherwise and have an evening walk?
Or simply… I don’t have TIME… Which I said at the start but I hear it so much I’ll say it again. I don’t have time, because of family, business, social commitments. Which is when you have to question – what makes you happy, what brings you joy, what makes you feel nourished and rested, or energised and thriving? Is committing to multiple social commitments on a weekend actually what you need to do when your body says “I need some love!” or can you trim those commitments and your to do list and perhaps allocate an hour somewhere, or even twenty minutes, just to take time for you and do whatever it is that makes you feel content within. Read a book, have a massage, go for a facial, hit the sauna, lie in the sun and get some rays.
So whilst everyone answer/ excuse might be different, here are a few ways I’ve approached mine.
“I’m a mum / parenting guilt” – You’re a better parent for some time out.
“I run a business / work full time / juggle work and family” – For that reason you need to practice this because you will run yourself into the ground if you don’t.
“I don’t have time” – You have as many hours in the day as everyone else, make the time. Acknowledge the time suckers that don’t serve a huge purpose (social media is one topping the list!) and use the minutes you create to have that time out.
And then one step further… the things that work for me RIGHT NOW to practice self care:
- Massage with my energy healer or the other day I had the gorgeous Jo from Still Beauty come to my home (as pictured)
- Facial to refresh my face which ultimately refreshes the way I look at myself too
- Swim in the ocean and feet in the sand
- Nap in the middle of the day with no alarms set – my body wakes me after 20 minutes anyway so I have no concern of sleeping for hours
- Walk in the sun, no phones, no distractions, just me
Tell me – what are your acts of self care you integrate into your life regularly and what habits do you think you can change so you have more time JUST FOR YOU?